We Do: Wedding Vows That Work
In a world full of Pinterest boards and styled wedding shoots, it’s easy to focus on the aesthetics of a wedding and forget the true reason for the festivities: the union of two people into a marriage. Whether you are having a large, elaborate celebration or a small elopement, there is nothing of more critical importance than the vows you make that day. Choosing one person to take on the challenges of life with is a beautiful thing that deserves more thought than centerpieces, rings, and mortifying bridesmaid dresses combined. So why do we tend to fall flat when it comes to preparing for the ceremony? The answer likely lies in the fact that most people have little experience in this arena and leave it up to a professional (or their second cousin who was ordained on the web) to make things happen. This approach has mixed results. Lucky for all of us, one such professional with incredible insight has created a reference book to help couples construct meaningful ceremonies and vows designed to last a lifetime.
Reverend Rob Hundley of Colorado Celebrations of Love has penned a new book entitled, “We Do: Wedding Vows That Work (And Keep You Happily Married)”. Due out this month, the book was created as a guide to help couples understand the meaning of their vows and how to implement them for a successful marriage. Rob has performed hundreds of marriage ceremonies and prides himself on helping his clients create a ceremony that is “uniquely theirs”. Struggling to convey the choices and nuances of ceremony particulars, he developed tools to help couples understand their options. Now he is ready to share that insight with a greater audience.
With this book, Rev. Hundley wished to appeal to a wide range of people. With 1/3 of couples choosing to write their own wedding vows, he gives tips on creating them. For the other 2/3 there is education on the history and meaning of more common vows. And there is even inspiration for those who are already married and wish to re-write or renew their vows for relationship longevity. Certainly all types of couples will benefit from reading this book and giving attention to their relationship goals and promises.
Each chapter is written around a story to make the lessons interesting and relatable. Interactive elements like checklists, starter questions, and worksheets help couples implement the concepts. Topics like “marriage deal-breakers” guide couples in conversations that allow them to write vows that will secure a prosperous future for their marriage. Other tools like his ceremony grid help couples decide where their ceremony should fall on the spectrum of civil vs. religious and casual vs. formal. The overall goal of these exercises is to create vows that address “love, livelihood, and longevity” for a marriage with a lasting legacy.
As George Eliot said, “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life — to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?” As you prepare for a lifetime of companionship, set a good foundation from day one. Carve out some time during your wedding planning to address the big picture and let Rev. Rob Hundley help you express it beautifully.
Written by Season Hurd (A Colorado Courtship Blog for Wedding Sites and Services)
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