Getting the best advice on who to hire for your wedding can be priceless. I met with Reverend Kim Tavendale to find out what you should know when hiring a wedding officiant. She gave me 5 wedding officiant hiring tips – read on to see what they are!
Reverend Kim Tavendale has been a wedding officiant for 10 years. She became an ordained minister and wedding celebrant to perform her friend’s wedding. Since then she has become an expert in every kind of ceremony from Viking to traditional.
Is your ceremony the reason for the celebration? Or is the ceremony just an excuse to get to the three D’s, which are Dress up, Drink, and Dance. Give some thought to whether your ceremony is something you want to invest a lot of time and energy into. Keep in mind that while your guests are sitting there waiting for you to do the processional, they spend a lot of time evaluating the venue and layout of event. Decide the importance that the ceremony itself plays on setting the tone for your wedding day.
There is an idea in Colorado that anyone can marry anyone. We do have laws about who can marry you. There is a statute that says if you want to have an officiant marry you, they must be one of four types of people. The first is an elected official. Someone like the Governor whose duties include the solemnization of marriages. The second type is an officer of the court. So, a Judge or a retired Judge can perform your union. Third of course is an ordained minister or a member of the clergy. The fourth type is an authority with a native American tribe who also has the duty of solemnizing marriages. When you have someone marry you, make sure they have the required credentials.
It’s important to see if your potential officiant is going to be a good fit for you as a couple. If you want someone to be in your wedding, I would say evaluate the three P’s: Personality, Presentation of the person themselves, and their Professionalism. It’s very important to get a good handle on the 3 P’s. If you're unable to meet in person, consider using Facetime or video chat so you can virtually meet.
Which kind of ceremony fits your wedding vision? Do you prefer a boxed cookie cutter ceremony, or do you want something custom that’s personal and about you? Hiring someone to perform or read a standard ceremony is going to be very economical. If you choose a custom ceremony it will allow you to have all the bits and pieces that are important to you. It is more of an investment having a custom ceremony written for you, however, a custom ceremony creates long lasting memories well worth the cost.
This is your wedding, and the appearance of your officiant matters. It may sound odd at first, but you need to picture your officiant at the center of your wedding ceremony. Visualize your wedding party all standing at the front of your ceremony in their beautiful dresses and suits, ties, flowers and everything. Your officiant needs to coordinate with the color scheme and formality of the occasion.
You need to give your officiant an idea of what you want them to wear. Do you want them to come in a dark colored suit? How about more of a light colored suit? Is your preference for your minister to wear light or black? Or perhaps you prefer that they wear navy. You have a choice of robes or stoles so that you can coordinate with your wedding theme. I have several different colored suits so I will be a better fit with the wedding party. The idea is not to take away from the bride and groom. Don’t just tell the officiant to be comfortable, because some people would be comfortable in a neon green speedo. That would not do at all!
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