If you want to ask your significant other's mom, dad, or other family member if it’s okay to propose, make sure that you do so with plenty of time. Nerves are a real thing even if you are pretty confident of the answer, so it’s nice to get that part out of the way quickly. Oh, and don’t forget to get the ring! If you have to order it, be sure to leave ample time between delivery and when you plan to propose, to account for any delays.
This may sound silly, but it’s very necessary and helpful! Whether you enlist help from people who know your partner really well, or you ponder on your own, you should consider the following questions:
Is he/she a private person or would want to invite everyone?
Is he/she pretty traditional, or dance to the beat of his/her own drum?
Has he or she said anything to allude to what he/she imagines as the perfect proposal?
What are some of our favorite/most significant places in our relationship?
Does he/she want the proposal documented somehow by photo or video?
Now that you have a general idea of some of the details, it’s time to choose the place and time. Proposals close to holidays or gatherings give you and your future spouse the opportunity to talk with family about wedding dates that would work best for everyone. It also allows you to celebrate with all the important people in your lives!
Here's a chance to be creative! Think personal significance. Perhaps the place that you met or where you went on your first date. Maybe a favorite spot for you as a couple or for your family. We also think somewhere quiet and beautiful and maybe a new place to create memories for your new family unit is a sweet idea. We may be a little biased, but Spruce Mountain Ranch is a gorgeous, quiet, and private place and our team LOVES hosting proposals and helping with the planning.
You may be a person who wants to write down something romantic and compose it word for word, or you may go with a simple and sweet, “I love you so much, will you marry me?” Either way, you’ll want to have at least a general idea of what you want to say and whether you are going to get down on one knee. If in doubt about getting down on one knee, we say go for it!
Part of the fun after getting engaged is being able to tell people together and you don’t want to leave your future fiancé out of all the excitement!
If your beloved seems to suspect what is imminent and you wish to keep it a surprise, the simpler and more natural the excuse the better. Plan a date like you normally would or enlist some help for a double date and have them “cancel” at the last minute. If you are in the beautiful mountains, take a hike if that’s something you would normally do. The simpler the “lie” or story, the easier it is to tell and the easier it is to keep the secret!
This is okay. It’s something that will make your story even more unique. Maybe traffic is heavy and you are late for dinner or it’s snowing and you have to get down on one knee in the wet grass... whatever it is that may seem like a huge inconvenience will only make it more memorable!
Be sure you’ve got the ring, all the players are in place (i.e. photographer, videographer, location staff, etc.), and that you take a deep breath! Act normally. Just think about this as another date with the person that you love – don’t overthink it! Also, we would suggest not waiting until the last minute of the date to propose. The longer you wait, the more nervous you will be and the more you'll begin to act oddly. Relax, you’ve got this!
You’ve popped the question and the “Yes!” was said... now you can celebrate! Maybe that means just the two of you or it means celebrating with family or friends. Whatever the case, you are getting married!! Congratulations!
Well there you have it! Our 10 tips on how to plan the perfect proposal. Don’t stress out and don’t rush it. This is such a special event in both of your lives and something that you will remember forever even if it’s not perfect... but hopefully these tips help. Remember, you don’t have to do all the work alone and we at Spruce Mountain would absolutely love to help! Good luck and we can’t wait to see your announcement come across our feeds and we would love for you to consider having your wedding at Spruce Mountain Ranch!
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